Forgiveness

Forgiveness.

It takes a lot to forgive someone for whatever they’ve done. Whether they hurt you, betrayed you, broke your heart, abandoned you, abused you or all of the above.

We should all be on a level pegging but sometimes that’s not the case, so it takes someone below you to try and bring you down.
It takes a special kind of person to hurt you, abuse you, break your heart and I don’t mean that positively.

I’ve been hurt by so many people I would run out of fingers and toes by the time I stopped counting, if indeed I could be bothered to count. They hurt me, yes. But to be honest I’m kinda grateful. I learned lessons that I shouldn’t have done until my thirties, I learned lessons that have shaped friendships and my life.

It’s not easy. It took me years to forgive certain people but, like any skill, I got better at it. And I extended this forgiveness to myself. I’m not perfect, have never professed to be, and I’ve made some huge mistakes. I’ve also hurt people unintentionally and of that I am not proud. But I’ve had to forgive myself to some degree or I will live every day of my life in hate. That’s no way to live. Forgive yourself for your mistakes, you’re only human.

Forgiveness is powerful. You are being fair to yourself. When you refuse to forgive you are giving permission for that person to continually hurt you over and over again in your memory.

So even if you can’t “forgive and forget” as the saying goes, for your own soul…try to recover and remember 💖